My comments on your comments. Part 1Posted: March 13, 2013
There are some things that I have been hearing A LOT lately. Things that people will tell me after they ask me how and what I am doing to be getting so healthy and fit. I am not in any way forcing anything down anyone’s throat here, but when you ask, I will tell. It is not my fault if you don’t like what you hear. Now, I realize how far I am from perfect, and I am in no way claiming to know everything here. I am learning every day. But, I obviously have a little experience that shows, or these people would not be grilling me. Thing is, I am a true Pisces through and through and I HATE confrontation, upsetting people, or not being understood completely. This usually results in me not saying much if anything for fear of how it will be taken. My mind, on the other hand, is blowing the hell up.
So, I have decided to be true to my Pisces nature and produce a piece of art through writing here and show my feelings. This way I know it is out there and I will feel better. If you can “hear me”, I hope it helps you.
Here are the statements that I have heard the most and what I truly need to say:
#1 is the most common. “But I crave junk food too much. I am just not willing to give it up.” or “There is just no way I could eat LIKE THAT.”
This comment makes me so angry because there are so many things that these people are just plain blind to and refuse to try to see. Just the automatic closed minded unwillingness to even try to see something in another way that will help them live a happier healthier life kills my heart. I totally get it. I understand where they are coming from. I have been there. It is hard. It is daunting. It is overwhelming. But if someone would have been willing to help me step by step, uh, …holy listening!
It is almost funny how they say “LIKE THAT” like I am eating out of the trash can. I want to scream at them. The way I eat is one of the most loving things you can do for your body. The way I eat gives me more real nourishment and energy in one meal than you probably get in a week. When you start to TASTE real FOOD, that crap you call food loses it’s appeal. Not to mention the fat that your body will just naturally get rid of when you stop feeding it. Yeah, “LIKE THAT”. I am thinking that same thing about the way you eat. How can you feed your body that CRAP and call it food? How can you defend it as it is killing you? The fat you can’t get rid of is kind of your smallest problem, you are playing with your life as we speak, just because you can’t put down the damn Twinkies. Really?
This one, unfortunately, usually ends in my walking away thinking “Go ahead and eat yourself to death….good luck with that.” And it makes me sad.
#2 This is one that I used to say a lot. But now I see the light people!: “It’s not fair that she can eat whatever she wants and never gain a pound.” or “I just want to be skinny.”
Just let me start with the fact that it is very likely that this skinny person is “skinny fat.” There are people who just have the type of body that will stay looking thin. This does not mean that their body fat is any less than yours. If they eat crap, they are still extremely unhealthy and as close to getting cancer, heart disease, and diabetes as a person who is 100 pounds over weight. And if they are also inactive, I can guarantee that they have little to no lean muscle mass. Fact is, you HAVE to eat real whole food every day. You have to move and build lean muscle every day. That is the only way to nourish and maintain a lean, strong, healthy body. If you are not doing that, you are unhealthy. And do I really need to remind you that muscle weighs more than fat? We have to focus on our own personal strengths and nourishing and strengthening our own bodies. No one else is going to do it for us. Worrying about who looks “skinnier” than us only holds us away from our goals.
I love the way this picture shows proof that weight means little when it comes to a healthy lean fit body.
#3 Then there is the classic,: “I have no will power.” or “I am just not a health freak, like you.”
First of all, I never in my life would have thought I would be on the other end of that statement. Crazy. And that in itself should encourage anyone to do ANYTHING to improve their health. If I can do this….anyone can.
Second, I have NO willpower. At all. This has NOTHING to do with willpower. Sure, it is handy at first to get you motivated and start with a bang. But just KNOW it will wear off. It always does. This is why you have to plan and prepare and support yourself for success. You have to plan your meals and have them ready to eat. Take them with you. Schedule time to work out. Set goals and write them down. Look at and read motivational material. Get with like-minded people. Surround yourself with supportive people. And ingrain the need for your health deep inside your heart. YOU are all you have. And YOU are the only one who will give you what you want.
If you put a piece of chocolate cake in my refrigerator, that shit is going in my belly. I have NO willpower. I will say it a million times because it is the truth. Which brings me to another point. Be completely and totally honest with yourself. Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do and it will sabotage any effort you try to make. So, if you do nothing else, just start with an honest statement about yourself. Own it. And then be honest with finding a realistic solution. I can not have junk in my house. I will eat it. All of it. Regardless of how I know it will make me feel and look. I will be pissed at myself and binge and hate every minute. But I can not stop it. I admit this, own it, and deal with it in the best way that I can. Daily. That is one of the most freeing things I have ever done. Try it. There is so much strength to be gained from just this one simple act.
This is actually really fun. It feels good to get this stuff out and I hope it helps some of you. As I have been typing, I have thought of a lot more. So, I have decided to do this post in two or three parts. Stay tuned my friends! There will be more to come!
And take a look at my Pinterest board for inspiration. I love all of these little sayings. They help me so much!